Saturday 25 May 2013

To whom it may concern

Dear Past
I'm sorry that I disappointed you, I know you had many plans for me but I was too busy to realise that 

My friends tried to warn me to take it easy, but I was too busy for them, I was too busy to chat

You wanted me to go to school, get myself educated so I can be something in life

But I rejected your advice, I chose my path which led to suffering and strife

I have no one else to blame but myself, you believed in me and yet again, I let you down

Mixed emotions running through my veins, I'm not sure if I should smile, cry or frown 

Dear Past.

I'm sorry that I couldn't be what you wanted me to be.

I'm sorry that I rejected advice from thee...

back then I thought I was cool, hung up with friends who introduced me to drugs 

I wanted nothing to do with school, I enjoyed chilling with drug dealers and thugs 

But I've changed my bad ways, just thought I should let you know.

I've learnt from my mistakes, and in life, I shall never stoop that low.

2. Dear Present.

Everyday is a challenge for me, I've learnt that life is not always a bed of roses

I've decided to chase my dreams, as the door of success closes 

I couldn't be a scientist, nor a lawyer that I wanted to be.

But I want to be a teacher, so that the young ones can learn from me 

I want to teach them about life, and pass on my knowledge to them 

I want them to know that, we as humans, we always do mistakes, but we can learn from them 

Going to school everyday, submitting my assignments, is not easy, but worth it.

I know one day my suffering will pay of, i'll be successful in life, and full of wit

Dear Present.

You remember the day I was depressed and you forced me to attempt suicide?

I could've died that day, but when I thought about it, I decided to put your advice aside 

You refuse to be kind to me, you do whatever you can to make me lose hope 

But I refuse to be defeated by you, I do whatever I can to cope 

I refuse you to make me the product of my past 

I refuse you to bring me happiness that doesn't last 

I refuse you to take my dreams away from me.

I will fight you all the way until you let me be!

3. Dear future.

I can see you running away from me, running away as fast as you can 

I defeated my past, and far away I ran

What makes you think I cannot catch you? What makes you think you're faster than I?

You cannot stop me from achieving my dreams, I want to reach for the sky 

And when I do, I want a golden seat to be reserved for me 

Cause then my life will be filled with glee.

I will tell you stories behind my success, stories of how I made it in life.

I will tell you even my secrets, of how I Combated my strife

I refuse to be rejected by you, I refuse to be left in the dark 

Just like those high achievers, I want to leave my own mark.

What is freedom?¿


What is the meaning of freedom
If I'm not even free?

Whatever happened to wisdom?
We aren't free can't you see?

They took away freedom when they made freedom of speech lethal
They took away freedom when they made death penalty illegal

They took away freedom when they refused to make us all equal
They took away freedom when they made abortion legal

They took away my freedom when they drove me in the bushes near the sea
They took away my freedom when they pinned me down on the ground

They took away my freedom when they took my virginity away from me
They took away my freedom when they prevented me from being safe and sound

Freedom made my kids to turn away from me, to neglect home and turn to prostitution
Freedom turned my younger brother into a thug with all types of guns and knives

Freedom turned prisons into a park, into a luxurious institution 
Freedom made the youth of today to disrespect their parents and to take other people's lives

What is freedom if not accompanied by wisdom?

Freedom led us to believe that we are xenophobic when in reality we are just plain ignorant
Freedom led us to believe that we are a nation and we all obtain equal chances in life

Freedom led us to believe that we are better than the next person when in reality we are just plain arrogant
Freedom led us to believe that as a nation we can all combat struggles and strife

What is freedom when every saturday we have to bury the youth?
What is freedom when our grandparents don't feel safe in their own homes anymore?

What is freedom when officials hide behind the truth?
What is freedom when my father acts like he has never seen us before?

Freedom made my mother to wrap me in plastic bags, to throw my helpless body into a dustbin
Freedom turned my father into a sperm donor, into a heartless being

Freedom made me to loathe myself, to loathe everything about me, even my dark skin
Freedom brought me hate, hate that life cannot bring

What is freedom if not accompanied by wisdom?

Freedom made her to dropout of school, to turn away from knowledge
Freedom made him to turn to drugs, to parties and rage

Freedom made her to trash her dreams, of ever going to college
Freedom led him behind bars, inside a jail cage

Freedom allowed her to abort her child, to feed it to the worms, for mother earth to consume
Freedom robbed her off her life and her future 

Freedom made her regret of ever being brought out of her mother's womb
Freedom made him to turn away from his culture

What is the meaning of freedom? 
For if this is freedom, then I refuse it.

Freedom made umakhelwane ukuthi ahlebe ngam
Freedom made ubaba wase nextdoor ukuthi alale nam

Freedom cleansed the schools of soweto by the blood of the youth
Freedom led Hector Peterson to be killed for the truth.

What is freedom if not accompanied by wisdom?

I refuse freedom
Freedom, I refuse you.

Dear life


I've been listening all these years
Listening to the words you whisper in my ears
I've been watching all these years
Watching while your people suffer yet no one cares.
Life..You get harder everyday
I guess things were meant to be this way
I've seen what your people are going through
They suffer in the name of you.
You know that this aint right
Your own people are in pain
They cry everyday
They cry everynight!
It's time for you to go
Create a better day
I hope you'll always know
I'll think of you as I pray.

You're blessed today

I applied for a job a while ago, and the "boss" sent me an email and said I got the job, but there were complications, I've been waiting for details about the job, when I was going to start, how many hours per day,etc. Since today I haven't gotten a reply from him, and when I checked his website, he had already gotten hold of people whom he wants the most.

I'm a bit disappointed, but I'm not gonna sulk about this. I realised that there's something better in store for me, maybe this was/ is not the job that God had wanted me to have, and He wants to bless me with something bigger and better, so I'm just gonna wait and see what God's plan is for me. (Jeremiah 29:11).

Now back to the topic. You're blessed today! Have you ever realised that we always take for granted things that we should be grateful of?

Do you ever wake up in the morning and say "thanks God for yet another day?"
If not, then you should, because thousands of people didn't wake up today, they didn't see the sun rise and they didn't hear the birds sing. Be grateful for today, God has given you this day for you to rejoice in it.

You're blessed today because you have a family. How many orphans do you know of? They are strong aren't they? Now if you were to put yourself in their shoes, not having a family, like siblings, and parents, do you think you'd be able to walk in their shoes? Carry the load that God has given them? Be grateful for your family, for you are blessed.

Many people are scratching in rubbish bins looking for something to eat, some don't have a roof over their heads, are you grateful for what you have? For the food you eat, and the house that you live in? 

Don't you see that you are blessed? How many people out there are fighting for their lives, but day by day they grow weaker, they lose faith and hope, and they think they might not even see a tomorrow.
You're strong and healthy because it is by the grace of God, are you grateful to him for what you really have?

Next time you pray, take some time to thank God for what you have, thank Him for everything, even for the little things such as.... Water, yes, water, many of us take that resource for granted. Thank God for what he has blessed you with.

Let's pray.

Dear Jesus,
I come to you today and I confess that I am a sinner, I have done many things that don't please you, and I'm asking you to enter my life and cleanse me so I can be a better person.

I thank you for the food I eat on a daily basis, for the family I have, for the education I receive (if you're a learner), for the work I have (if you have a job), for the love that you continue to bless me with, and most importantly, I thank thee for giving me yet another day, for me to be glad and rejoice in it, and for the strength and health that you have blessed me with.

I pray for those who are mourning right now, may you enter their hearts and lives and comfort them, I pray for those who are sick, in hospitals, in homes, or in the streets, I pray that by the name of our almighty Lord, they may be saved, I pray for those who are hungry and thirsty, may you give them today their daily bread they so desperately need, I pray for those who are in great danger, who are being kidnapped, who are being rapped and abused, may you rescue the from the devils hands. but most importantly, I pray for those who do not believe in you, may you enter their lives so they can accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and saviour. Thank you God, for everything you have done, and you will continue doing for me.
In Jesus name we pray.

Amen.

Ie. I'm from South Africa, and English is my third language, sorry for the bad grammar and spelling, I try.

My family

my little sister Rejoice Ntombifuthi Makhubu


my brother and niece, Nosipho And Thami



my little sister Rejoice



my mom Grace Makhubu



me, Evelyn Nonkululeko Makhubu:)


my brother thami



my cousin, Pontso

Dreams

What do you want to be?
I remember when I was in grade 3, my then teacher asked us all in class what do we want to be.
I was 9 years old back then, I had no idea what I wanted to be, some wanted to be nurses, others police, and some teachers, finally the teacher asked me, and I was puzzled, not knowing what to say, I said " fashion designer". The teacher was so amazed and impressed, but did I really meant what I said?
I guess so yes, as I grew up I kept on changing my mind, in grade 7 I wanted to be a scientist, grade 9, a lawyer, grade 11 a politician, matric a philosopher, took a gap year in 2010 and I decided that I want to go for photography, later on that year, I wanted to be a journalist.
I couldn't make up my mind when I went to apply at UJ, so I went for teaching. Something that never even crossed my mind.

Do I really want to be a teacher?

Well, my first year at varsity was a mess, I got even more frustrated when we got told that we had to go for practicals. I wanted to drop out, I never imagined myself as a teacher, and it was never too late for me to start afresh.

But then I thought to myself, well, let me just give it a try. I passed my first semester modules, went for practicals in September and I enjoyed it.
And then I thought to myself, well, clearly this is what I want to do.
I love children, I want to change someone else's life, I want to be a role model to them someday, I want to pass on my knowledge to them,  in these small hands of mine, I want to produce doctors, lawyers, scientists, etc etc.

I really enjoy teaching, I want to be a determined teacher, not do it for the sake of doing it. I want to be a positive influence in the lives of those beautiful kids out there.
After a very long time, I realised that I haven't given up on my dream of becoming a fashion designer, it began with a small drawing of a wedding dress, everybody liked it including my mom, and then I went further by drawing atleast 5 pages of designs that crossed my mind.
The passion of designing grew even stronger, I decided to take tutorial classes and slowly I think I'm achieving that dream.

Now, a teacher who is a fashion designer, I like that. I'm planning on fulfilling my dream in 2016 by studying law, part time. Its never too late to chase your dreams. I want to be that successful woman with more than 3 degrees, I want to be able to label myself as "educated" one day. Brothers and sisters, get up and be what you really want to be! Time waits for no one.
We were having a debate with a friend of mine, don't know what it was about, fascinating enough, she asked, "do you know who's the most educated man in the world?" And I said, "no I don't, but whoever that man is, might be from Havard"
She said "well that man is Robert Mugabe". I was so puzzled, I went on google, and yes google confirmed it, it's him! With 7 degrees, two of them being masters. Well he might not be the most educated man in the world, but he surely is, in the whole of Africa.
Be the next most educated person in the list! Make your dreams come true. Cliche but honestly, its never too late!
(ie. The drawings are mine, but designs are Hayden's.)

How would you draw the face of the world?

How would you draw the face of the world?


So my dad bought me a book, " what if we did it God's way? The ten commandments" by Loron Wade.
Interesting book I've ever read, the author begins by asking the question, "how would you draw the face of the world". I felt like he was directly asking me, and I was so puzzled, I paused a bit, and thought to myself "disappointed" the face will be a disappointed one, but I never really thought as to why the face will be a disappointed one.

Okay, I went to joburg the other day, oh I hate that place, its a busy dirty place where crime usually takes place, so I was making my way to the taxi rank, this "lady" comes to me and asks for R5. I paused. She was dirty, wearing a brown knitted jersey, she had no shoes on, the hair was just a mess, what was more puzzling was that, she had a small baby on her back, about 5 months old. And I asked her, "what do you want to do with so much money?" she said she wanted to buy bread as she was hungry, I asked where the father of the baby was, she didn't reply, and I asked if the baby was hers, she said "yes" an ashamed "yes". I did not know whether to give her the money or not. I just left her there, but then felt bad about it, then I went back looked for her, I gave her R3 instead.

I kept asking myself why did she make a baby if she's so homeless and unemployed? Children really don't want to grow up in such situations, they want to grow in a comfortable place, even if it is a shack.
Now enough about her, I've been to Joburg a lot and I've seen homeless people begging, I've seen addicts doing what they can just to get the next fix.
What is this world coming to?

I've seen teenage girls getting wild and pregnant, I've seen them running away from homes, I've heard stories of fathers raping their daughters, I've seen grandchildren raping their grandmothers, I've seen people getting murdered, kidnapped, I've heard even more worst stories than these.
One can only talk about bad things that happen in this world, but what about the good? Maybe the good are too disappointing as well.

I don't even want to touch the topic of poverty, as it plays a major role in producing criminals in our society.
Now really, how would you draw the face of the world?
Will it be a smiley? a big grin?  Will it be disappointed? Angry? Frustrated? Or sad?
I suppose the face of the world has its moments, other times happy but I suppose it is mostly disappointed.

Children are like plants

Children are like plants.
Oh yes they are like plants, they grow nice and beautiful, actually, they grow how you want them to depending on how you treat them, how you take care of them.
You make sure that they have strong roots so they can stand on their own, you weed out bad company so they will be able to grow strong without any disturbances, you water them so they will not die. That's what you do to your children so they can grow strong and beautiful.
You can't desert them, or treat them like trash and expect to them to be strong, successful, beautiful roses someday. You play a role as a parent, don't be too strict on them, raise your children according to God's will, not yours.

Tuesday 21 May 2013

SUICIDE

I never understand why people commit suicide. I've asked myself this question for a long time now, and I've never gotten to the real answer, why people commit suicide.

I know bad things happen, but eventually they do get better. 
I've been there, I've thought about killing myself, a multiple times, but I kept having faith and hope, and a small voice in me kept saying "just be patient, things will get better". I guess it is that small voice which kept me going. I am strong today, and suicide hardly passes my mind.

I read a story, about an eleven year old girl who recently committed suicide because she was now a drug addict, she wanted to stop, but she couldn't and it was hard for her to.

I heard stories about girls who commit suicide because their boyfriends dump them, or found them cheating.

I heard a story of a girl who committed suicide because she failed grade 10.

I've always heard that, "suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem." 
I guess that's true, the 11 year old girl could have went to a rehab and got help. I'm not even going to comment about the girls who take their lives cause of a boy. I don't see that happening to me and that is a dumb reason for taking your life. 

I've tried committing suicide my first year at varsity, I failed my first test dismally, and I was scared, I was scared because back then I didn't have a bursary, didn't apply for any and my parents had to make means to pay that R21 000 for me, I was really scared to let them down. I was scared to let the lady who helped me out with my studies down, that is my moms employer.

But I heard that voice, which kept me strong and going, and I'm happy to say I passed all my modules, I even got some distinctions.

But what if I had committed suicide? I guess I would have lost almost everything I have.


I encourage my brothers and sisters today, that no matter what you're facing right now, no matter the situation, how big it is, kneel down and pray, prayer really does change things. It works for me, I'm sure it will for you too.
God urges us to give our burdens to Him and He will take care of them. (Psalm 55:22).

Yes God might not respond in time, and it might seem like He hates us, like He has turned His back on us, but that is not true. 
God is always listening, and when we cry, I'm sure He does too, cause He's like a mother to us, and no mother in her right mind would want to see her child broken and sad.

God urges us to seek his face, (Jeremiah 29:13). Seek God's face, wholeheartedly, and He will be found by you.
Never think that God hates you. Remember there are billions of people in this world, and what you're facing right now, is nothing compared to what most people are.

Be still and know that He is God.
(Psalm 46:10)

A special thanks to the people who actually played a major role in my life.

A special thanks to the people who actually played a major role in my life.

Thabiso Meshack Makhubu.
Well this man passed away in 1994 I think, I was 3 years old. I thank him for creating the Makhubu family, for meeting my grandmother and having a wonderful daughter together, who's ofcourse, my mom.

Jowe Joyce Makhubu.
This is my grandmother, who has actually played a major role in raising me up, yes she was an alcoholic, and I would get home from school and my grandmother would be drunk already, but through all this, she knew that I had to eat, wear and go to school. During my childhood years, my grandmother actually played a major role in being both my father and mother. And I thank her because today, I'm a strong, beautiful and proud woman because of her.

Nomathansanqa Bethel.
This is my great grandmother, who passed away in 2011, a day before her 96th birthday. I thank her because, she always reminded me to thank God for everything I have. She is the one who thought me to pray before I went to sleep and before I eat. She is the one who managed to get the family together, and to make peace in it. I thank her for sharing her spirit of ubuntu.

Nhlanhla Moffat Makhubu.
This is my uncle who made sure that I get a lunchbox for school. He ensured that I never missed any of my school trips, and I remember that he would sometimes buy me clothes for Christmas because he knew that my parents didn't afford them.
I thank him for treating me as his own child, for taking care of me and for helping me when I was in need. The family always say bad stuff about him, but this is the best uncle I've ever had.

Nomvula Grace Makhubu.
This my mom who carried me for nine months, abortion never crossed her mind. We were poor back then, but she never thought of abandoning me and my siblings. She always tries her best to make us happy, she is the only one now, who manages to prepare a hot plate for my siblings and I. I don't know what I would do without her. This woman introduced me to God at an earlier age, I remember preaching at church cause she prepared me to. I was only 10 years old when I started reading the bible all by myself.
Thanks mom, today I know God exists and it's all because of you.

Linda Mngxali.
I wish to marry a guy like my dad, a guy who knows how to raise his children, with respect and with love. My dad and my mom have been together for more than 29 years, I've never seen them fight, physically or verbally. Yes relationships aren't always a bed of roses, I'm sure they've had their ups and downs, but honestly, I've never seen them fight.
I thank my dad for being the best man in my life, he helps me with my school assignments, he helps me study, and sometimes we don't sleep cause he'd make me study until I master the content. But mostly, I thank him for never leaving my mom, for not having other kids outside this relationship with my mom, and most importantly, I thank him for all the prayer nights we have together, for the biblical verses we share, and the motivational stories he always tells.

My moms employer, Naomi.
I've never seen such a kind person my whole entire life. This woman, really is a God sent in my life. I remember in 2009, when I was in my matric, she called me, and asked me what I wanna do after matric. She made sure that I got into varsity so that I can study and be successful one day. She had faith in me, and that's what kept me going. This woman has done many things for me, she had bought me clothes, and I don't know what I've done to deserve this, she wouldn't sleep, busy applying bursaries for me, and I'm glad to say that, today I have a bursary and it's all because of her. She would send me motivational sms's at 10 pm, telling me how she believes in me and that I will make it. I remember her husband was the one who took me to UJ so I can apply, he practically never went to work that day because of me.
I cannot list all the things she has done for me, but this woman really played a major role in my life. And I hope that God will continue blessing her and her family, and that He will keep her strong for me until the day I graduate and get a job, so I can properly thank her.

Nombulelo Makhubu.
This is my older sister, who never takes sides when my little sister and I fight. She would make sure that there's peace in the house, she would try so hard for me and lil sis to get along.
But most importantly, I thank her for waking up in them morning at 4, making sure that my clothes are clean, for cooking for us all when no one wants to cook, and for cleaning the house when everyone is lazy.
Thanks Buli♥ I'm sure if you were never in my life, life would be hard for me, since I enjoy the madam life.

In Life

In life....

I've learned that you have to accept the situation that God has put you in, we don't choose our parents, I didn't choose to be in this poor family, but it was God's decision, and I'm glad to be a member of my family because even though we're not rich, we still manage to love and support each other.

I've learned that you have to work hard to actually achieve your dreams, when you fail, get up once again, and start over, and maybe this time you might get it right.

I've learned that sometimes you have to let go, we let go not because we're weak or not worthy, but because we refuse to remain sad, but because THERE IS something BETTER in store for us.

I've learned that, we musn't allow people to tear us apart, to let us down, we're all beautiful because we are created in God's image. No one has a right to tell you otherwise, we are God's creation, not theirs.

I've learned that money cannot buy you happiness. I've seen rich people committing suicide, I've seen them tearing apart, not because they are rich, but because they are never satisfied with what they have.

I've learned that beauty isn't everything. I've seen beautiful people turning ugly. I've seen them becoming old and saggy, I've seen them get burnt by their makeup, but then again, no one is actually content with the way they look.

I've learned that we should accept who we are, our weaknesses and strengths, and that we should try working on our weaknesses so that we can be better people someday. I've learned that we shouldn't compare ourselves to others, they might be good at what we're not, and we cannot all be the same, or achieve the same goal as them.

I've learned that you should always make peace with your enemies and family, cause one day you might found out that they are dead, whilst you never even got a chance to say how sorry you are or how much you love them. Make things right, always.

I've learned that people change, some for the better, but others for the worse. 

I've learned that the road to success isn't as straight as people think it is. It is rocky and thorny, it is steep and tiresome.
But no matter how hard that road may seem, never ever give up. 

I've learned that love, isn't how people say it is. It is not always cruel, love has the ability to make you happy, and other times sad. We just have to accept all the emotions that come with love.

I've learned that what we want Is not what we need, that what we need are things we cannot live without, like water, air, food.

I've learned that people will always judge without even knowing your situation. They will judge and even make fun of you. They may say all the bad things about you, but hey.....Jesus thinks you're to die for.

A strong woman

A strong woman.

Honestly, I don't know what a strong woman is, I've tried defining that woman, but words aren't enough.

What is a strong woman?

Well to me, a strong woman, is the woman, who has found out today that she's HIV+, and this woman makes a decision to not end her life, but accepts the situation that she's in, and handles it with strength.

A strong woman is the one who was raped, and still finds courage to talk about it, and accepts that situation and moves on.

A strong woman is a single mother today, because I assure you that, no one can play both the roles a single mother plays, of being a mother and father and never gives up. This single woman ensures that there's food on the table for her and her children, no matter how hard life may get, this single mother carries her children with pride and will still be a provider.

A strong woman, Is the woman who raises her children according to God's will. Matthew 19:14. Jesus says let the little children come to me. Instill good morals, values and respect in your children, raise them, according to God's will, and not of your own.

A strong woman, is the one who was abused, and chooses to stand up for herself, and refuses to be the victim of abuse.

A strong woman, is the one who's independent, who doesn't rely on a man for her own happiness, who doesn't sit at home and wait for the man to put food on the table, but this woman gets up and does things for herself.

A woman who doesn't tolerate bullshit, doesn't stay in a toxic relationship for the sake of her children, or of money, but she gets up on her own two feet and creates a palace for her and her children.

A strong woman might be all of these according to me, but how would you define a strong woman?




{This does not mean that a strong woman has to go through these horrible things first in order for them to be defined asa strong, I compiled this list because, I beleive that a strong woman has to get up and do things for herself, even though it may seem hard and rough at times, but this strong woman will carry her laguage with pride}